I Have a Motive Here
If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing...Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away...And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
1 Corinthians 13:1-13
Some of the points I'm trying to make with my story are to give hope, to encourage, to strengthen, and to point people in the direction of God's restorative truth.
I've shared quite a bit of our painful journey so far. I've connected with many people who have expressed their thankfulness to know that someone else has gone through similar things and experienced healing and redemption in their marriage.
I've made personal phone calls to various readers, connecting them with Christian marriage counselors.
I've written many emails to readers who were thankful that I took the time to speak with them and to pray for them.
While I do want your marriage to heal, and for you to see the power of forgiveness, it would be useless if I did so without love.
I'm not telling you this in a boastful way. I'm telling you in order to make a point.
Everything my wife and I have done with this blog and with all of the connections we've made in order to support and to encourage, would be meaningless if we did not have love.
I'm not telling you this in a boastful way. I'm telling you in order to make a point.
Everything my wife and I have done with this blog and with all of the connections we've made in order to support and to encourage, would be meaningless if we did not have love.
The underlying purpose behind everything we do here is because we love you.
I want you to hear and to absorb that right now. I love you. My wife loves you. We don't know you, but we understand and feel the heartache you've experienced. We don't want you to walk this journey alone.
I needed this today. God knew that without me asking. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad it blessed you! Thank you for your comment.
DeleteIm scared. Scared of looking like a fool. I just found out my husband tried to sleep with 1 of my friends but she said no. I dont want to walk away but I need him to not want me to walk away.
ReplyDeleteBringing the situation out into the open is the first place to begin. I'm sending you an email. There is too much to discuss in a comment thread.
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ReplyDeleteYou have such a huge ministry to married people. Your experiences and story is going to be a huge encouragement to others. Many couples are going through this very situation. I'm glad that you are here to share with them.
ReplyDeleteKeelie,
DeleteThank you for your kind and encouraging words.
Blessings to you
I contacted you last year when I found out my husband had cheated on me. I needed and still need the real was of your page. We have come all my way, through lots of prayer. You and you're wife's helped me to understand him. I felt like he would always be looking for the next opportunity to be unfaithful. Your words prove that not all men are like that, and your wife still having insecure feelings made me feel like I'm not the only one, that I can choose to forgive and still not be at the 100% secure mark and that's ok. I'm rambling but I hope it makes sense to someone. My husband and I have never been closer. We have learned (albeit the hard way) that God has to be the foundation of your marriage and your family. It's been 1 year and 1 week since I found out. I have forgiven. You pointed me in the direction I should have looked all along..and that is to God. So, thank you
ReplyDeleteWe are so encouraged by your story! Praise God that you've been working towards restoration. The road is long, but well worth it. I would also encourage your husband to attend a Christ-centered support group to give him tools for integrity and accountability. It would probably benefit your marriage if you both attended. Here is one great place to look (Celebrate Recovery)
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Blessings to you & thank you for sharing your story with us. It is situations just like yours that make the efforts we've put into this blog completely worth it.