Wednesday, September 28, 2016

The Reason This Blog Exists

I Have a Motive Here

If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing...Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away...And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

                               1 Corinthians 13:1-13


Some of the points I'm trying to make with my story are to give hope, to encourage, to strengthen, and to point people in the direction of God's restorative truth. 

I've shared quite a bit of our painful journey so far. I've connected with many people who have expressed their thankfulness to know that someone else has gone through similar things and experienced healing and redemption in their marriage. 

I've made personal phone calls to various readers, connecting them with Christian marriage counselors. 

I've written many emails to readers who were thankful that I took the time to speak with them and to pray for them.

While I do want your marriage to heal, and for you to see the power of forgiveness, it would be useless if I did so without love.

I'm not telling you this in a boastful way. I'm telling you in order to make a point.

Everything my wife and I have done with this blog and with all of the connections we've made in order to support and to encourage, would be meaningless if we did not have love.

The underlying purpose behind everything we do here is because we love you.

I want you to hear and to absorb that right now. I love you. My wife loves you. We don't know you, but we understand and feel the heartache you've experienced. We don't want you to walk this journey alone. 


16 comments:

  1. I needed this today. God knew that without me asking. Thank you.

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    1. I'm glad it blessed you! Thank you for your comment.

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  2. Im scared. Scared of looking like a fool. I just found out my husband tried to sleep with 1 of my friends but she said no. I dont want to walk away but I need him to not want me to walk away.

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    1. Bringing the situation out into the open is the first place to begin. I'm sending you an email. There is too much to discuss in a comment thread.

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  4. You have such a huge ministry to married people. Your experiences and story is going to be a huge encouragement to others. Many couples are going through this very situation. I'm glad that you are here to share with them.

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    1. Keelie,

      Thank you for your kind and encouraging words.

      Blessings to you

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  5. I contacted you last year when I found out my husband had cheated on me. I needed and still need the real was of your page. We have come all my way, through lots of prayer. You and you're wife's helped me to understand him. I felt like he would always be looking for the next opportunity to be unfaithful. Your words prove that not all men are like that, and your wife still having insecure feelings made me feel like I'm not the only one, that I can choose to forgive and still not be at the 100% secure mark and that's ok. I'm rambling but I hope it makes sense to someone. My husband and I have never been closer. We have learned (albeit the hard way) that God has to be the foundation of your marriage and your family. It's been 1 year and 1 week since I found out. I have forgiven. You pointed me in the direction I should have looked all along..and that is to God. So, thank you

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    1. We are so encouraged by your story! Praise God that you've been working towards restoration. The road is long, but well worth it. I would also encourage your husband to attend a Christ-centered support group to give him tools for integrity and accountability. It would probably benefit your marriage if you both attended. Here is one great place to look (Celebrate Recovery)
      http://www.celebraterecovery.com/
      Blessings to you & thank you for sharing your story with us. It is situations just like yours that make the efforts we've put into this blog completely worth it.

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  6. If you know you not ready for a relationship why get into one and still cheat and liar. I was dying inside for my cheating husband, i had no prove, no one to run to. Everyone thought i was paranoid. until i was referred to a Private Investigator  Mr James . I told him about my situation and He understood me well and helped me spy on my husband.He hacked his Gmail and Facebook account and linked all his WhatsApp and phone conversation to me, to find out the truth.I saw all the evidence and i was heart Broken,I just want to openly say thank you Mr James for helping me get evidence against him,i feel so hurt. If you need help please contact him (Worldcyberhackers@gmail.com) via Email. 

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  7. My husband and i got Married last year and we have been living happily for a while. We used to be free with everything and never kept any secret from each other until recently everything changed when he got a new Job in NewYork 2 months ago.He has been avoiding my calls and told me he is working,i got suspicious when i saw a comment of a woman on his Facebook Picture and the way he replied her. I asked my husband about it and he told me that she is co-worker in his organization,We had a big argument and he has not been picking my calls,this went on for long until one day i decided to notify my friend about this and that was how she introduced me to Mr James(Worldcyberhackers@gmail.com) a Private Investigator  who helped her when she was having issues with her Husband. I never believed he could do it but until i gave him my husbands Mobile phone number. He proved to me by hacking into my husbands phone. where i found so many evidence and  proof in his Text messages, Emails and pictures that my husband has an affairs with another woman.i have sent all the evidence to our lawyer.I just want to thank Mr James for helping me because i have all the evidence and proof to my lawyer,I Feel so sad about infidelity.

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  10. I suspected my wife of cheating on me but I never had any proof. This went on for months, I didn't know what to do. i was so paranoid and decided to find a solution, i saw a recommendation about a private investigator and decided to contact him. I explained the situation about my wife to him and he said he was going to help me.I gave him all the informations he required and afterwards i received all my wife’s phones Text messages and calls, I was hurt when i saw a picture of my wife and her lover. I feel so bad about infidelity. but i am glad Mr james was able to help me get all this information, you can contact him via email(worldcyberhackers@gmail.com).

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  11. If you know you not ready for a relationship why get into one and still cheat and liar. I was dying inside for my cheating wife , i had no prove, no one to run to. Everyone thought i was paranoid. until i was referred to a Private Investigator  Mr James . I told him about my situation and He understood me well and helped me spy on my wife.He hacked my wifes Gmail and Facebook account and linked all her WhatsApp and phone conversation to me, to find out the truth.I saw all the evidence and i was heart Broken,I just want to openly say thank you to James for helping me get evidence against her,i feel so hurt. If you need help please contact him Mr James (Worldcyberhackers@gmail.com) via Email. 

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